Regardless of the fact that I dont have a penis, Im going to give a little advice to any guys who may be reading. Really guys, homophobia is not attractive. Being overly homophobic makes you look like you're way insecure about yourself, or waaaay in the closet. Either, or both! I dont know any girl who finds this in any way attractive, because honestly, there's nothing sexier than self confidence. Trust me on this, self confidence is not having to stress constantly that you're not a fag, self confidence is being too cool to care what other people think. When you're constantly trying to assure people that you're not gay, they're actually wondering when you're going to come out of the closet, because obviously you're trying to compensate for something. (Obviously Im ignoring the homophobes who are just plain ignorant and bullheaded.)

I should probably explain why this is coming rather out of the blue. Yesterday, when I was at work, my brother came upstairs on his break to visit me and after he left I was hearing comments from up the aisle. The guy was obviously trying to make himself look good or something for a girl who was there (who I know has gay friends) and obviously I was bothered by what he was saying. If you're going to bash someone, make sure their sister isnt in ear-shot before you make an ass of yourself. If I had have been sitting just a seat or two closer I would have said something, but we were at polar opposite ends of the aisle, so I was more eavesdropping than anything.

I waited until today to post anything because I wanted to sleep on it. Yesterday I was really bothered by the whole thing. Maybe its just me, but I dont see Paul as gay, I just see him as my brother. My only sibling. Im proud of him and I wouldnt change who he is at all. I admire a lot of people, but I probably look up to him the most. He's not afraid to be the person that he is, regardless of what other people think. That takes balls. I suppose, as an older sister, I still feel like I have to protect him and that's probably part of the reason that I get so pissed off if I hear people saying things. In all honesty though, I get offended whenever people make general homophobic comments.

6 Comments:

 James said...

I remember seeing a program on the BBC a few years ago, where they hooked up the penises of homophobic and non-homophobic men to sensors to record their reactions to gay porn. The non-homophobes showed no reaction, whereas the majority of the homophobes showed a genuine sexual arousal, which of course they denied.

Monday, December 12, 2005 9:26:00 a.m.  

 Miss Marisol said...

Absolutely. Homophobia is plain ignorance, and ignorance is so very unattractive -- in men and women.

It is highly suspect when a man reacts violently to homosexuality, as though it is a threat to his own manhood. It's a shame people aren't encouraged to deal with their sexual issues early on and just get it out of their systems. We'd all be better off, frankly.

Monday, December 12, 2005 9:53:00 a.m.  

 Christophe said...

Reject normative gender assumptions Comrade.

Monday, December 12, 2005 10:05:00 a.m.  

 eye candy said...

ratpouch: I've heard of studies like that done before and they're not suprising.

Miss Marisol: I agree. The problem with Western society is that we're taught from an early age that being sexual is bad, and being homosexual is really bad. I blame that on more than just the dominant religions.

Christophe: Talking in riddles hurts my brain!

Monday, December 12, 2005 11:08:00 a.m.  

 Christophe said...

Ack.

It's just a phrase a mate of mine came up with on the In-tar-net in relation to said ideas of pigeonholed sexuality.

Basically the original:

"I reject your normative gender assumptions"

... is a sort of a catch all that you can throw back at anyone who decides either consciously or sub-consciously that a particular behaviour, activity or trait is or should be predominantly masculine or feminine.

I always liked the phrase.

In fact, so taken were we with our own elegance at the time, I think we even appended it to read thus:

"Kiss me, I reject your normative gender assumptions."

Monday, December 12, 2005 11:42:00 a.m.  

 eye candy said...

Thank you for explaining :) Now that Im sure its not a call to arms, I agree, it is a great phrase.

Monday, December 12, 2005 1:59:00 p.m.  

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